Friends are not Facebook Visitors
Proverbs 19:4 (ESV) “Wealth brings many new friends, but a poor man is deserted by his friend.”
I have a friend that predates Facebook. He is not just a visitor to my FB page. In fact, he cannot even use a phone anymore due to his current limitations. However, when he was well, he was a top-tier friend. Why? He was loving, helpful, generous and committed to our friendship. However, we were never friends on Facebook. Friendship has depth often lacking on FB.
The general principle of this proverb is “you can expect a wealthy person to have friends he didn’t know he had until he had wealth.” And you can also more-or-less know that a wealthy person, who once had friends, will lose those same “friends” if he becomes poor. But ask yourself, “is this person really only my friend because of what he or she can get, or is it because of what he or she will give?” True friendship is an act of love, and love manifests itself in sacrificial action and giving.
When it comes to investing, be careful in selecting an adviser. Many in the financial services industry are friendly, but that doesn’t make them your friend. A friend seeks your well-being even if it costs them. In fact, it might be wise to pick every friend based on their generosity and honesty and true love for your well-being. Picking friends based on their wealth or net worth is not a wise course.
Good friends have much to offer, and most of it doesn’t come from wealth. Most of my best friends have been relatively poor. Solomon had much to say about good friends and friendship. For example:
Proverbs 27:6 “Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy.”
Proverbs 27:9 “Oil and perfume make the heart glad, and the sweetness of a friend comes from his earnest counsel.”
Proverbs 17:17 “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”
Are you a good friend?