Should I Explain? How Should I Explain?

The word “explain” can be used for more than one purpose. Sometimes it is an effort to make something clear or to respond to a question. Sometimes we explain because we want the listener to understand the reason we said or did something or did not say or do anything.

Everyone Doesn’t Need an Explanation

Some think that every situation or conversation requires a response. For example, my response to a fool can vary. That is one reason why two Proverbs seem to contradict themselves in Proverbs 26:4-5. If you stop with the first proverb, you conclude “I should not explain something to a fool.” However, if you read the second proverb, you might come to a different conclusion. You might think your explanation can help that fool see his folly.

Proverbs 26:4 “Answer not a fool according to his folly, lest you be like him yourself.”

Proverbs 26:5 “Answer a fool according to his folly, lest he be wise in his own eyes.”

Consider the Age of the Listener

One obvious qualifier is the age of the listener. If young boy asks, “Where do babies come from?” the answer is not necessarily going to cover all of the details. You can explain at the right level of detail. However, if you hide the details from a teenager you will miss some teaching opportunities.

Ask Before Answering

Far too many are ready to “explain” without understanding the reason or reasons behind a question or a concern. For example, Proverbs 18:13 says, “If one gives an answer before he hears, it is his folly and shame.” Somes hearing requires asking questions that help you explain in a way that is material.

When It Is Best to Always Explain

Some things must be explained because there are eternal consequences. For example, true Christians should be “prepared to make a defense” (explain) why we have hope. However, this explanation must come from a gentle and respectful heart. We must also realize that the recipient might not like the answer.

1 Peter 3:14-16 “But even if you should suffer for righteousness’ sake, you will be blessed. Have no fear of them, nor be troubled, but in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect, having a good conscience, so that, when you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ may be put to shame.”

How to Identify a Follower of Jesus

Colossians 4:6 says, “Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.” That is a lofty goal any time we are giving any explanation.

“Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. Therefore put away all filthiness and rampant wickedness and receive with meekness the implanted word, which is able to save your souls.” James 1:19-21

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All scripture passages are from the English Standard Version except as otherwise noted.