“Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.” 1 Peter 3:7 ESV

Dear Cindie, While I normally write about a Proverb on Wednesdays, today is a special day, as it is our 43rd wedding anniversary. Therefore, I am writing this from the perspective of a man who is still learning how to live with you in an understanding way. I have more understanding than I did on July 3, 1976, but far less than I probably should have. Thankfully, you are patient and you are also growing more mature in Christ as I mature with you.

We have worked together and enjoyed many things together over the past 45+ years since we first met at Garfield Baptist Church. Your first letter was a blessing. You wrote to me when I was stationed in Hawaii serving in the United States Navy. While there is no easy way to recount all the wonderful blessings we have enjoyed, it is safe to say that the blessing of having two children and six grandchildren is high on the list. We have moved three times, ministered in four different churches together and have gone on many adventures, including a wedding in New York City.

In New York City – December 2017

Even our struggles have had a positive impact on our lives together. The wedding vows that say, “in sickness or in health” apply as do “for richer, for poorer.” Caring for family members has been hard at times, but it is something we can do together, and each of us has abilities the other is lacking so that we are more effective together than we be otherwise.

I don’t know what the future brings, but I do know God will continue to bring sorrows and joys for however many years we have. There is no one better to spend those days with than you. “Until death us do part”… even that is just temporary because of the cross. I love your smile and the way you have loved me even when I was not, or am not, very understanding.


Love, Wayne